Sometimes it’s just best to think of someone else other than yourself. There are going to be moments where the first thing that pops into your mind isn’t the best thing to blurt out.
From my experience, some humans really need to manage their outbursts. If you’re having a great day but someone close to you isn’t - that could be a real task.
It takes a certain level of patience and understanding to not resent that person especially if you are the one tasked with taking care of him or her.
In theory this may seem like a piece of cake but in reality it takes a herculean effort to be patient and kind.
I am guilty of losing my cool with someone who needed me to exude both fruitful qualities. Over time I have just tried to mend my ways. It works if I just try to put myself in their shoes. When I literally cannot imagine I just make up my mind to understand.
So here is my to-do list for thinking of others and maintaining relationships out there.
1. Be sincere - genuinely WANT to add positivity to the lives of other people. If you really don’t care you really don’t have a desire to be in that person’s life. Food for thought.
2. Say sorry - and mean it. Even if you don’t mean “sorry” you mean to “save your relationship” so mean that, if not “sorry”. But still say it. Saying sorry takes a death process. It’s an act of humility to be the “bigger” person. Strength is sometimes mistaken for weakness. Who cares? Once your relationship with that person is intact.
3. Shut up when you have nothing nice to say - People get on our nerves. People in pain? Way more nerve stomping. Resist the urge to be mean or sarcastic. Just understand. Say nothing. Take the hit. Plenty of time to deal with that in the future.
4. Do act from a place of LOVE. If you genuinely tap into that intended human ability to love then your actions will follow suit.
Here’s hoping you and your loved ones build strong relationships.